Lent Day 20 Reflection
“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”
— Helen Keller
As I listened yesterday to Brady unpack the process of how God listens to the cries of His people and removes them from bondage while restoring them to a place of freedom, something profound struck me. As I contextualized the message in my own life, God centered the conviction on my parenting. What I wouldn’t give to provide true freedom for my boys. As a father, I want my boys to experience freedom from fear, religious legalism, unhealthy modes of validation, etc. Those are all areas that I have wrestled with in my own life. It breaks my heart when I see them fall under the pressure of the very things that can drain me spiritually, relationally, and in my leadership of them and their mother.
But in God’s deliverance, we experience not only a cleansing and restoration, but also an exhilarating adventure. Paramount in that journey to true security is the understanding that my boys are not my own but rather temporary gifts on loan from God. This life can be a rather dark place. They need to see that this world is not simply unicorns and glitter. They need to see that dad is drawing his strength from His heavenly Father. They need to see that life dips and turns in ways that are unexplainable. They need to see there is an answer to those twists of “fate.” They need to see a dad willing to let go and allow the freedom in his own life demonstrate a confidence in the blood of Christ. Placing a stranglehold on the lives of our children is not providing security and a freedom from danger. This fallen world will make a fool out of any delusional parent seeking to remove this fact from the lives of their children.
This Lenten season, walking by faith and loosening the grip on orchestrating life to the smallest detail is necessary for me. We should avoid the silliness of our sin certainly, but to sift the experiences of life in hopes of freeing it from trial is a losing battle for fathers and their children. In the end we all lose. Let’s face this life and it’s crumbling nature, and truly acknowledge with everything that we are that in the end God wins. Christ made sure of that on the cross. Let’s point the compass of our intentions to that truth and act accordingly. Our children need to see what they can become in Christ through us.