Learning To “Adult”
When I was a child, I spoke, thought, and reasoned in childlike ways as we all do. But when I became a man, I left my childish ways behind. For now, we can only see a dim and blurry picture of things, as when we stare into polished metal. I realize that everything I know is only part of the big picture. But one day, when Jesus arrives, we will see clearly, face-to-face. In that day, I will fully know just as I have been wholly known by God. 1 Corinthians 13:11-12 (The Voice)
Adulting is hard. If you aren’t familiar with this “non-word,” it’s basically a hip way of referring to paying bills, shopping for your own groceries, and scheduling your own teeth cleanings.
In all seriousness, however, it’s about so much more than that. All of those things, in and of themselves, are not (that) challenging. What is hard is owning when you’ve hurt someone and asking for forgiveness; recognizing that the world truly does NOT revolve around you, and that perhaps you should take a look around once in a while; and having honest conversations with those you love because you know it’s for the best, even if it’s painful at the time.
These are the ways I’ve resisted “adulting.” My reasoning was perfectly sound – it’s uncomfortable and might hurt, so why do it, right?
But now, at the ripe old age of 27, I’m taking baby steps toward becoming the grown up that my driver’s license says I already am. Thankfully, I have Jesus-loving people in my life who are willing to supervise my wobbly efforts and encourage me to grow. I’ve realized that I can’t do all that Jesus asks of me and wants to do through me if I stick to my spiritual milk and my constant desire for comfort and ease (plus, the 27 year old who thinks she’s still 19 is not a cute look).
This passage in 1 Corinthians reminds me that Jesus doesn’t ask me to do this in my own strength or even out of my own understanding. He simply promises that it will all make sense eventually, and that He sees me and knows me. What I take from this is that being an adult, contrary to popular belief, doesn’t mean you know everything.
Being an adult actually means recognizing that you do NOT know everything, but trusting in the One who does, and living a life that pleases Him, no matter the discomfort or pain.